My
Transgender Approach, my Rejection of Transgender Ideology
I
consider myself a transgender woman (without
HRT, social transition only), but I
don’t give the word “transgender” the meaning it
has in Transgender
Ideology, which I
reject. For me, a transgender person is someone who wishes to live
socially as a member of the other sex (whether they currently do so
or not).
What is “Transgender
Ideology”?
In official discourse, this ideology is supposed not to exist. Only
far-right conspiracy theorists would speak
of “Transgender Ideology”.
Yet it is an essential component of Wokeism.
We should be allowed
to name the ideas associated with it, in
order to discuss them and compare
them with alternative ideas. The content of Transgender
Ideology can be
consulted on any information media on the subject published by
transactivist associations. In many Western countries, it is
currently taught in schools. This ideology stipulates
that:
Transidentity
does exist (transidentity: having a gender different from one’s
biological sex; experiencing
transidentity = being transgender),
Gender
dysphoria is a symptom of transidentity (and cannot have another
cause),
Self-determination
(what a person says about their gender) is the (infallible) way of
knowing whether a person is transgender or cisgender
(non-transgender),
Being
“in the wrong body” makes transgender people unhappy, and
they should transition to feel better.
Personally, I don’t
know if transidentity exists. I thought it did for a while when I
transitioned socially (then I quickly
“trans
peaked”). Gender dysphoria can
be explained in other ways. From my discussions with other people
concerned, it became clear that the desire to transition could have a
wide variety of reasons. In all likelihood, it was a choice. That’s
why I’m bothered when I hear people say that “being
transgender is not a choice”. It seems to me that it discredits
homosexual people when they say the same thing about their
sexual orientation. I don’t
rule out the existence of transidentity,
but this explanation is actually being used as an umbrella for the
most diverse motivations. In any case, I believe that
self-determination says nothing about its author, and that
considering it as an infallible means of knowing one’s gender
identity opens the door to serious abuse. There are alternative
explanations for people who wish to live as members of the opposite
sex.
Ray Blanchard believes that men who wish to live as
women are divided into two groups: homosexual and non-homosexual
men. The
latter are motivated by a sexual
fetish called “autogynephilia”, the fact that a man is
sexually and/or romantically attracted to his own image as a woman.
Blanchard’s highly controversial theory caused a furor among
transactivists. Michael Bailey, who adheres to it, has been the
subject of considerable persecution, particularly after the release
of his book “The Man Who Would Be Queen” on the subject.
Today, the theory is demonized and autogynephilia is taboo. In my
experience, based on a large number of testimonials, it does exist,
even if it can’t be generalized to all non-homosexual men who
feel the need to live as a woman. I think it’s a big piece of
the puzzle, not the whole puzzle.
Hyper-heterosexuality
can also drive a man to live as a woman. It’s generally thought
that a man characterized by very marked heterosexuality is
necessarily very virile, but the result can be the opposite. I myself
am a hyper-heterosexual biological male, and in my head I live in a
world without men. I don’t like the style and appearance of
men. I listen almost exclusively to female singers; male singers
generally don’t suit my tastes. Historically, I admire women so
much that I imitate them. When I was still living as a man, people
often mistakenly thought I was homosexual, because of my
style.
Dissatisfaction with what society expects of men
can also drive a man to live as a woman. Men have a mediocre
appearance, live in a “semi-Kabul” in the matter of
clothes (dull, uninteresting clothes), nothing sexy is provided for
them (appearing sexy in public feels incredible, but only women are
allowed to do so), they are de facto forbidden to wear make-up and
generally to do all the wonderful things women can do. What’s
more, a form of feminism (which denigrates these things) tells them
that not having access to these
things would be a
privilege.
Transmaxxing (or dragmaxxing when there is no
medical transition) consists of a man transitioning to a woman as a
way of achieving fulfillment in life. Because of evolution, because
of the historically dangerous nature of reproduction for women and
non-dangerous for men, men and women have not adopted the same
sexual/love strategies. Women are by nature much more selective than
men. As a result, some men are excluded from anything to do with
love. We call these men “incels”. These men benefit from
transitioning to women, I’ll come back to this point later.
Similarly, fat fetishist men are considered as perverts, monsters,
especially by the (fat
or very fat)
women they love. Except, of course, by those who are themselves fat
fetishists, but the fat
fetish community is 80% male, and the 20% of
women, who are, as I’ve found since I started living as a
woman, actually very successful in their neighborhood,
don’t need to wait for a fat
fetishist man who lives several hundred miles
away. Fat fetishist
men are therefore incels. What’s
more, they may not
want to damage a woman’s
health by encouraging her to stay fat
for their own pleasure. There’s only one
body you can do whatever you want with: your own. So it’s in
their best interest to be themselves their
own ideal fat
girlfriend, who fills them with happiness when
they look in the mirror, while enjoying the pleasure of constantly
being hit on and complimented by men – and therefore to
dragmaxx, too.
When I transitioned socially, I didn’t
know the concept of transmaxxing.
But I was very impressed by what was happening to me in society. I
was about 40 and 125 kg (I gained
weight on
purpose, due
to fat fetishism), and men were
turning on me, there was a lot of staring, compliments and flirting
(I had a large number of partners, like
in the “Carousel” described by
masculinists, which only young, slim women are supposed to
experience, according to the theory of the Red Pill movement).
I hitchhiked one time and the first car stopped (a
single man). Even women liked me more than before. Many told me that
appearing as a woman suited me much better. What a contrast to what
I’d experienced as a man, especially at school when
everyone called me “trisomic”! I have an autism spectrum
disorder, but that was no longer a problem as a woman.
For
an incel, transitionning to a woman changes
everything: he’ll go from “trisomic”
to sex
bomb. A woman can’t really be
unattractive: men are few
selective and have a strong fetish propensity, so
all women are attractive to at least some men. As for fat fetishist
men who have voluntarily gained
weight: they are in
addition feminized by their obesity,
so dragmaxxing (without medical transition) typically already gives
excellent results. Every
man may have an
autogynephilic side, which he can use if needed.
I’m not particularly autogynephilic myself (especially compared
to others). Yet I find it delicious to be in love with your own
image, which has taken the form of the woman you’ve created
yourself according to your own criteria.
I believe that
transitioning as an
adult because
of autogynephilia and/or with a
transmaxxing/dragmaxxing approach is
acceptable, as long as you don’t conceal
the reason why you’re
doing it (for example, by making
people believe you’re trans-identifying). Of course, one
person’s freedom ends where another’s rights are
violated, and it’s essential to respect certain common-sense
rules:
Trans women must not go to women-only places,
Trans
women must not participate in women’s sports,
Trans women
must not benefit from measures designed to promote women or from
advantages naturally provided to them by the market (car insurance
prices, etc.),
Trans people must not transition
administratively,
All transitions must be
self-financed.
(Non-exhaustive list.)
It’s
very important for anyone following
any kind of transgender path
not to fall into victimization. We are fortunate
in the Western world to enjoy a generally high level of acceptance of
transgender people. We need to be aware of this. It hasn’t
always been this way, and this cannot be taken for granted.
Non-approval of a transgender approach, disagreement with an
assertion of a theory relating to a transgender approach (for
example, the existence of transidentity, or the acceptability of
autogynephilia), and misgendering
in particular, do not constitute transphobia,
should not be confused with hatred, are not within the remit of
justice, and do not in themselves impede individual freedom.
Following a transgender path doesn’t always make life easier in
certain areas (professional, etc.), but as adults we need to be able
to understand the consequences of our actions (not least by putting
ourselves in other people’s shoes) and take responsibility for
our choices. It’s up to us to make the most of the
opportunities offered to us by our choices. If we fail to respect the
framework of reasonable freedom, if we see in it only transphobia and
hatred (as I unfortunately see all too often, with the false Left
leading the way in this matter) and prefer to violate the freedom and
rights of others in the name of a perverted vision of social justice,
the current acceptance of transgender people is unlikely to be
sustainable in the long term.